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6 Reasons You Find It Hard to Receive Sexual Pleasure
Time to unlearn what we have learned
As woman, it’s deeply ingrained in us (from birth) to put others needs before our own. That receiving sexual pleasure is the mark of a wanton hussy. A “bad girl” — and not a gift of love or gratitude from our “giver”.
Why? Here’s a start:
- You have made up your mind that other’s people needs are more important than your own.
2. By becoming an expert on other people’s needs you forget about your own actual desires.
3. You have been taught that only a “bad girl/person” receives and takes pleasure. As a good person, you do for others and think not of yourself.
4. You are so busy “doing” that you have little or no experience in “receptive states”.
5. You are worried that people will think you are selfish, greedy and only think of yourself.
6.Most of your energy is spent on doing for other people which leaves very little left for yourself.
Being able to receive pleasure freely opens us up to a world of sexual possibilities, arousal and pleasure. It boosts our sexual mojo, and the energy vibrates out of our bodies and channels itself in many other aspects our lives. Learning how to receive is a gift that keeps on giving.
Learning how to receive and identify your desires is a bit like exercising a muscle. You need to practice. So start small. Practice receptive states in others aspects of your life. Try listening to music, walking or simply sitting and allowing. When you open up to receptive states vs doing states it can become easier to open up to your desires. Understanding the stories that keep you from receiving can be helpful.
