Moving from Trauma to Deep Erotic Pleasure

Pamela Madsen
Oct 16, 2020

From stress to orgasm.

Art courtesy of Reesa Bobeesa

Betrayal trauma changes you. It can put you in a state of Hyper Vigilance which can deeply impact everything from your relationships to your orgasm.

If you’ve had a life-altering experience such as an unexpected break up or major life change, you may be living with the biggest orgasm blocker of all. Broken trust can shut down your libido, including your ability to focus and regulate your emotions.

What happens is that traumatized individuals pay more attention to cues of threat than other experiences. They interpret ambiguous stimuli and situations as threatening leading to more fear-driven decisions and emotional reactions. They stop exploring pleasure and erotic sensations and become closed off.

When it comes to being able to drop into our bodies, relationships and sexuality — we need to support people to let go of living in the perception of danger with can bring up feelings of fear, sadness, rage or terror.

Sexual ecstasy cannot flourish when we are dropped into defensive behaviors such as freeze, flight, fight, or collapse.

I think we need to talk more about this, especially today when everyone — — especially women seem to be on high alert as a state of being.

It’s a conversation around sex, libido, desire, arousal and orgasm that is under served.

And we can move beyond it and find a pathway to amazing, erotic pleasure.

I’m serving it to you as a path to healing and finding sexual freedom.

I hope you join me.

I hope there is something here for you.

Loving you from here,

Pamela.

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Pamela Madsen
Pamela Madsen

Written by Pamela Madsen

Fearless Sexuality Educator, Writer & Advocate for a woman’s relationship with her whole self. Sensuality Retreats Around the World.Learn more backtothebody.org