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Why Size Doesn’t Matter
And what it means to be a Well Fucked Woman
I just gave an interview to a magazine about what it is to be a “Well Fucked Woman.” I know that there are other sex educators that use this term, and so when this reporter got to me…..I’m not sure I told them what they wanted to hear, but here I go:
I love being a well fucked woman. And that has nothing to do with a man penetrating me with his cock, how big he is, size or shape. I know some people are hung up on ejaculation — not me. I don’t even care if I have a climax (orgasm).
Being a Well Fucked Woman is about “this feeling” that my lover, his heart and his genitals are one. Being a Well Fucked Woman means that I am penetrated by my lover in ways that show me that he is fully awake when he is with me. It’s not about tissue; it’s about presence.
People get so lost in this idea that fucking is about size, pounding and position. Go deeper. Fucking is about illuminating the soul. When a man is present, he can light up a woman like a fire in the darkest night. When a man learns how to bring that light to a woman, to the connection, intimacy and heat between them, it’s then that he can truly fuck.
For me, that is when he can travel into the places in my body where I desire to be held. He gains entry into my dark shadows and my lightest suns. That is where he…
